Are you out of your mind? First off, to accept what you’re saying, you’d have to be ok with the standard strip clubs (for men), and the objectification of the opposite sex. Secondly, don’t you realize that places like those make people feel validated only insofar as they demonstrate the total lack of selfhood and interior individual validation they already have?

Not to mention, flirting is great, and wonderful, and fun, but there is innocent fun flirting, and then there’s Flirting. Innocent fun flirting would be, I guess, what it is that I do, or used to… when you see someone and you find them attractive you let them know, when you appreciate something in someone you let them know, spontaneously. It’s cute, it’s fun, it usually ends up putting a smile on people’s faces and no one’s the worse for it. Flirting, capital F, is also fun and cool, but it LEADS to something, that’s the whole greatness of it! Flirting with no strings attached would be like wanting to eat without ever ingesting food… and you who were complaining about a society of consumerism…

Finally, I find it odd that you and Kat, both of whom are in long-term relationships with people who you allegedly love, would realistically want such a concept. If you need that kind of validation outside what you have…. well, i won’t say anything, except that it seems odd…. don’t get me wrong, some external world validation is always good, but that’s where the innocent/fun flirting comes in.

Anyways, you’re awesome Heather and I do love you, but this is one of the more frightening things you’ve come up with in a long time.

regardless, heather how are you doing?